Where is your home?

TheBigForestHomeBlog‘Home’ is often more complex than the physical location of your front door. Home is a deep rooted feeling of belonging.

I once worked with someone who scoffed when people said ‘I’m going home for Easter/Christmas/the holidays’. If they haven’t created their own place that feels like home, he asserted, then there is something deeply wrong. A parent’s house is not home when you are an adult.

But I think he missed the point. We assemble the bundles of associations and sometimes memories, recognise the culture that fits our sense of identity, the views that inspire and sounds and smells that make us feel safe. Who is to say the place we assign as home is wrong.

Oliver Burkeman in his Guardian column explored the same theme [it’s like] when you move to a new place and realise it’s where you belong. “New Yorkers are born all over the country,” Delia Ephron said, “and then they come to New York and it hits them: oh, this is who I am”

So we are home, finally after lots of travels. For some of you it will be a surprise because we have always written as though we have been home, but that has not been the case. Just three weeks ago we finished the final leg of our journey back to Brighton and now we have a house and studio piled with teetering towers of boxes making every trip to the kitchen and the garden an obstacle course. It will get sorted. Indeed already we can see some order emerging from the chaos. A picture hung, a bookcase filled, a vase of flowers in a 1950’s vase on the mantelpiece. The unpacking and deciding and laying out of our possessions help build a sense of being rooted again.

There is one piece of the jigsaw that went missing, distorted the fragments that made the picture whole. Someone offered something they could not deliver and so there is more effort needed to make this new world work. No matter. It will work; our drifts of project plans are filled with dense crossings out as things get achieved. One more project, a set of tasks to complete, although a challenge when resilience is low isn’t an unsurmountable barrier to being well and truly nested and snug in our home.


Our 1950’s doll’s house (which is a damn sight tidier than the real house!)


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  1. I have more than one home, which I think is amazing – it means I’m comfortable in more than one place! 🙂

    I hope your move has gone smoothly, and that decorating the place has been fun.

    On a final note, it took me a while to realise the photo was of a miniature 😮

    • Its a really wonderful dolls house from the early 1950’s exactly like a house of that period would be. It was made for a local girl and we are so lucky to have it. Its on my blog post list to show everyone!

  2. My parents are from cheshire, i was born in wales but grew up visiting my maternal grandparents in cheshire, a big old house, acres of garden, orchard, veg plots, 2 greenhouses, a middin, foxglove paths and chickens next door…..thats my home, its where my heart will always be. Sadly until i win the lottery my body will stay in wales x welcome to your new heart home xx

    • Thanks Sam, grandparents homes, places you explore as a child often leave really powerful memories. It sounds lovely, particularly the foxglove paths (one of our favourite flowers).

  3. lundygirl


  4. Good to hear you are and feel home again, yes moving house is time consuming and one get´s edgy. Hope you settle in soon and give us a glimpse because of course all your infos made me curious 😉
    Have a good week!

    • Thanks Chris. Lots of ‘glimpses’ coming up. We have both come down with heavy colds this weekend which is natures way of saying ‘stop working for a few days’

  5. So glad you are home. You can’t keep a good bear down whatever the circumstances.
    A publisher came up with offer they could not deliver just a two weeks ago, was desolate, but It’s just made me more determined to self publish But got the last one into City Books it had taken months get the courage to ask and they were lovely!
    Tea and toast any time guys might make a change from boxes Annx
    ps three computers! and they have all gone on strike and this one won’t let me ‘like’ must be the bears their marmalade or honey!

    • Thanks Ann. And positive news (well not the computers :(. When we had our book published we asked tentatively in Waterstones by the clocktower and they were great, ordered some in and also said they did launches for local authors if they know in advance! Love City books, independent bookshops need our support.

  6. Welcome home! SO glad you found your way back to where you belong! You’ll be settled and being productive and creative again before you know it, I hope!

  7. Rosalind Williams

    Australia, one hour north of Sydney, minutes from coast, but in a dense forest. I live in a tree house and my verandah is in reaching distance of the dense tree canopy. The bird life is varied and intense. I have a breeding pair of currawongs, mother and father frantically trying to keep food up to demanding babies, beautiful king parrots line the balustrade seeking sunflower seeds, huge white cockatoos prepared to demolish all woodwork if not fed, several kookaburras fighting for their share, and on it goes. Never dull here in the tree tops, wouldn’t swap it for anywhere in the wild world. I love it. Ros Williams

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